
channeled by John Smallman
© 2020 johnsmallman
Today I want to talk to you about self-acceptance, not self-esteem, just self-acceptance. There are very few among you who have not suffered psychological and emotional trauma as you grew from infancy – as soon as your consciousness began to arise in-utero – to adulthood. Those traumas are the basis of your fears and lack of self-acceptance. The traumas were the result of judgment and shaming by those who were your caregivers – parents, close relatives, siblings, school teachers – who were all, with no exceptions, doing the best that they could in each moment. They too had been traumatized from infancy. When you are traumatized your human nature automatically builds psychological and emotional defenses, and, when you become a little bit independent – crawling, toddling – you start making your first attempts to build physical defenses to help you feel safe, through bodily physique and/or strong personality development. The result is that most people, when interacting with others in any manner at all, are on the alert in case they experience a situation in which they feel a need to defend or assert themselves, or preemptively attack someone else. This is an extremely stressful manner in which to live your daily lives.