
Rose-Colored Glasses: The New Age Trap
by Kathryn E. May, PsyD and Gabriella
"You think of yourselves as humans searching for a spiritual awakening, when in fact you are spiritual beings attempting to cope with a human awakening. Seeing yourselves from the perspective of the spirit within will help you to remember why you came here and what you came here to do."
- The Group
Spiritual people have been given a hard time by their families, their culture, their friends, and often, their partner or spouse. You are used to being insulted, belittled and diminished by the people who look down their noses at you. You have learned to "forgive and forget", and to swallow your rage at being insulted. Often, you have decided to keep those people close to you even though they disrespect you for the most important thing in your life - your Faith.
You have been told you are a weirdo. Unconsciously, you have accepted this is true, and it makes you feel shy about revealing what you have learned while being awake. Does this make sense? It would make more sense to be shy about being ignorant and asleep. Masters are teachers. Many of you have forgotten your innate power, and why you are here. We are now on the brink of a revolution on Planet Earth - a transition so profound and far-reaching that we will barely recognize ourselves or our way of life. It is a time when many of us will have to choose a bright new path, filled with new people who will become our business partners, friends, co-workers and spouses.
We have been entrusted with financial blessings that will require us to create important new networks to accomplish the great changes we envision. How will you create your Vision if you are afraid to talk about it? Will money really change your willingness to be transparent about your beliefs and who you are in the deepest part of your heart?
How do we learn to have good judgment about the people we bring into our lives? You are an avant-garde person. Would you go into business with a person who is traditional and conservative just because they are good at business? What if they flatter you with praise and favors? What if they seem to be loving, kind and giving. How will you know if they are genuine, to be trusted, or just good pretenders?
Shyness is Fear
Let's call it what it is. Shyness is the result of having been convinced that being yourself will bring on disapproval from others. This creates a dilemma. Do you want their approval or do want your Self? Of course, if you don't love yourself, why would you want to be yourself?
Why is it hard to leave behind the people who don't see you for who you really are, and sometimes mistreat you even though it drives you crazy and leaves you frustrated and angry?
Let's paraphrase an old adage: The thing that irritates you the most in others is the thing you need to work on the most, because it is what you are doing to yourself. You are rejecting and disapproving of yourself, and you have surrounded yourself with people who will agree with you.
How do we get ourselves into such a Black Hole of unworthiness that we are willing to trade our Selves for approval? And how is it that we don't see this obvious trade-off? Where did we learn to shut down so completely that we are blind to the cruelties we inflict on ourselves by allowing others to mistreat us? And even if we did see it, would we leave to save ourselves?