Message from the Angels My dear friends, we love you so very much,
You live in a world of unspoken agreements and implicit expectations. You live in a world where many feel that if they do "x" someone owes them "y." A parent raises a child and expects that child to take care of them in later years. A woman or man is a dutiful daughter or son and expects their parent's blessing when they finally make their own choices. A partner sacrifices his or her own dreams for the other, expecting to be loved and supported in return. Perhaps. alternately a partner supports the other financially and expects to be loved for being the provider.
While these are
certainly reasonable requests, they become troublesome when they are left as
unspoken expectations. If you do something with an
expectation of having someone else do something or behave a certain way in return, then you have, in effect, stopped treating the other person as a soul, and started treating them as an "object" – a thing that must behave in a certain manner. Inevitably, this leads to disappointment, bitterness, upset and even hatred in extreme cases.
In reality dear ones you are all learning, growing, and trying to assist one another towards greater understandings of love.
Rather than harboring unspoken agreements, make explicit requests. "I will babysit your kids every week if you can be available when I occasionally need some help." "I don't mind providing for you but I do need some sympathy and understanding that I work long hours in return." "I will take care of you. I only ask that you treat me kindly." And to your kids. "I love you. I expect you to behave in a certain way. If you don't here is what will
happen."