Tuesday 7, October, 2014
By Gabriella Brightlight
Unconditional Love
Today I want to talk about love; What does it mean? How does it feel? How can we access it? Do we trade something of ourselves to get it? What are we ready to do in the name of love?
From Wikipedia; "
Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations. It can be also love without conditions." "...In conditional love: love is 'earned' on the basis of conscious or unconscious
conditions being met by the lover, whereas in unconditional love, love
is "given freely" to the loved one "no matter what". Loving is primary.
Conditional love requires some kind of finite exchange, whereas
unconditional love is seen as infinite and measureless. "
Interesting definition. I did not learn unconditional love in my
childhood, either at school or with friends. Every situation I was in
was conditional. I was going into my teens with no understanding of
what love is all about. I completely shut down, to not feel anything
that could hurt me. It probably sounds familiar to you.
I remember clearly the feelings I had in my first loving relationship.
How can we forget the first love in our lives! It touched something I
never felt before. I felt alive for the first time. Something coming
from an external source made me feel alive. I was young and the
relationship was chaotic, but I felt passion, attraction, love from
someone else for the first time. I completely transformed from being
introverted and shy to an out-going, flamboyant character. I learned to
go outward instead of inward. What a trap that was.... I thought I was
being seen for the first time, but still felt empty.
In my outward life I was the cheerleader who brought the fun and friends
home with me for amazing diner parties. I was confident and always took
on new job opportunities even if I had to relocate far away and change
everything in my life. It was thrilling to me to always prove to myself
that I could achieve anything I wanted and overcome any fear. I was a
winner and ready to jump no matter what! I received promotion after
promotion and was making good money. I was strong, opinionated and
pretty. It was a very seductive composition. I attracted men in my
life with this "cocktail" of me.