In Memory of my best friend Jay, that have passed with leukemia, back in 2006
Posted on December 7th, 2014 by Verdensalt
Hi Jay,
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| Jay and me in Phoenix, Arizona or Sedona, cannot remember (only pic of me at SoTW) |
Searching on the Internet recently, surprising googling your dad obituary from 2011. My condolence!, was surprised, however was aware of his conditions and struggling from cancer as well.... Your properly having a ball in cities of light in heaven right now, I'm sure of that....Anyways... the weeks ahead was the best wake-up call for me, how fragile life was, the feeling of numbness or total ignorance, what if .. the guy with the Grim Reaper had come to take you away or some miracle would happen and pull the leukemia cancer straight out of your body, like John Coffey did in The Green Mile. But seems you mind was up to something, you had a plan already. Visiting old friends and relations and saying "goodbye" to all. Actually, I was very grateful. Remember we meet up with your old friend, just recently out of prison, special moments .. we had friends over for dinner, did a lot a stuff, just didn't strike me right at that time back in 2005, it was the last time i ever saw you.
Jay, when the devastating phone call came a few months later from your wife Jeanene, she said with tears in her eyes, "Jay had passed away", things just stopped. You told me, you needed second phase of Chemotherapy treatment in Dallas, Texas after Stem Cell Transplant from Your sister Angela. Well, first of all, You hated that place, particular due to the Bush family's presence. (that's a whole other story)
Well, time has passed now and i do regret not attending Your funeral, even if it was explained to me, You really didn't wanted anybody to come and say goodbye at the Hospital in your condition... everything went so bloody fast from there... I was so upset, WHY? Why i was not allowed coming and saying proper goodbye? .... I could just image you Jay, like the humorous guy everybody always felt for, cutting through bullshit and with a loud voice with English accent tell us "It's just a flesh wound" from Monty Python-The Black Knight. It always cracks me up, thinking about that recitation. Another thing, was not there for You at your wedding, was shameful as well. It seems, when somebody is gone, it's hard to make things right again about the past mistakes we did, who would ever foreseen you dying from cancer at 37 years of age, so unfair.....
Oh well.. back in the good days, the exchange student days, decades ago, you where the wild one in the bunch of siblings. Yelling, screaming, slamming the door, true temper, too much hormones and teenager anger, like the rest of us (not so much me). I, being more like introvert personalities, you more like extrovert type. My time over there was a mess, four families in one year's time. HOWEVER, best time, Anyplace anywhere anytime! Taking me in as i was, felt like true full blown family member at Jerry and Mary's house in Manchester, NH. It was truly a blessed time. Mary Your mom, treated me like "royalty". Every morning, she had cooked and prepared most extravagant breakfast, any eyes had ever seen. Both You parent was awesome. . I knew you and your dad didn't see eye to eye always, but you parents was loving, giving, welcoming and truly the best parents, anybody could have. It was tough back then, Dan you bigger brother, successful banker, as i recall, and all your sisters, Cathy Jo (i was actually in love with her, did you know that?), Angela, Cheri...tough to be feeling leftover..., but Jay, I always knew, Your parents loved you like everyone else...
Remembering back, we had an awesome time, really. We meet up for the first time at Memorial Lane, worked as dishwasher, you as waiter or was it a cook (same, same at that place)... nevermind. Right away we had a connection, same sarcastic humor and both sports freaks. (American Football). Some highlights were like .. wasting time at Dim Sun Restaurant in Derry, eating and drinking some of the best long island iced tea i have tasted.... sometimes a little bit tipsy, sorry Mary... :-) or driving on your bike to Hampton Beach, checking out bikini beach babes or clubs at night.... good times .. Being with you Jay, was so easy, you had a unique skillset of kindness and approachability towards strangers and friends, selflessly, giving and giving all the time.... I'm sure now, we both had a Divine Godish contract to meet and depart in the way we did. I have just immense deepest gratitude. Even if we was separated for longer times in our life's, we could pick up the chatter, like it was the day before we had talked to each other... That's what I call a soul friend....
Seeing incredible spiritual Sedona,AZ with the red rocks for the first time, Dining at Scottsdale with breathtaking beautiful scenery, Visiting West Coast, Wine Country (NapaValley), Solvang, European tour in Firenze the four of us or chill out at the pool grilling steaks or playing american football... We always had a awesome time, no matter what we did...
You can think badly about the government or Cabal controlling US citizen, or police force or even NSA, CIA and Pentagon, America is and will be the land of opportunity and the general population shows hospitality, open-minded and loving to all strangers and people who surround them.....
I'm so grateful to both for Jeanene and her family and Jay's family to giving me the best times in the States and very best memories which will be in my heart forever... and that also goes to doloras From The Experiment of International living 1986 who taught me to drive a car, and had me in for a few month in Bedford. (almost trashed her car) I have meet so many families, people and got so many friends, unforgettable memories, unfortunately lost track of time many years after, live is very different in Denmark, never had you Jay and all the beautiful people back in the states, out of my sight and mind, greatest adventure ever....
Have tons of stories to tell, could go on and on ...
https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/twincities/obituary.aspx?n=patrice-anne-loney-patty&pid=192805074
https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/bostonglobe/obituary.aspx?n=gerard-derepentigny-jay&pid=17186467
I Love You, Man ....
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| You would sack me for publishing this online:-) |
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