A Message to Lightworkers -
December 7, 2018
Excerpt from Earth Life Challenges
Chapter 3 - “On Being Shut Out By a Loved One"
QUESTION: What is the nature of the blockages and the no-contact policy between my daughter and me, and what can I do about it? Or do I just have to live with it?
Although I have asked for her forgiveness many times, that I left her father and loved another man and married him, taking her and her brother with me, she doesn’t want to accept it, and doesn’t want to be in contact with me.
I don’t even know exactly what she accuses me of. She said it was “wounds from the past.”
She went through an emotional burnout and postnatal depression, and has done therapy and trauma therapy. But that hasn’t led to “normal” contact with me, so far.
I’ve done countless Ho’oponopono prayers, and solved everything on my side, holding her in love and blessing her and her family.
Is this just something I have to accept and live with?
THE COLLECTIVE: This is an excellent area to discuss, as so many are experiencing family and friend estrangement now.
Understand that children do not always see their parents as individual adults with interests, needs, and personal expressions of their own. And of course, parents often have trouble seeing their child as an individual adult, even when their son or daughter is well over the age of thirty.
Your daughter did not see you as a woman seeking to be honest about her feelings, her life path, and her strong preference to be with the man she loved, instead of the man she no longer loved.
Though this was an honest and brave move for you, your daughter, in her youth and inexperience, saw you only as one of the two pillars holding up her sense of reality, her inner and outer life, and her understanding of how life ought to go—even her understanding of how the Universe works.
Then one of those pillars moved out of place, disturbing and upending her world, and her sense of sameness and safety.
And so, she reasoned that if her mother could change, and change her children’s lives as well as her own life—anything in life could change.
Anyone could present themselves as someone unchanging and utterly reliable in the way that children need and expect, then suddenly break that unwritten, deeply held law, and do as they needed to do for themselves, and expect others to adjust.
Now, we do not say this to judge you in any way, for you were merely following your life path. And interestingly, your daughter has been doing the same—following her life path.
Before incarnating, you agreed to experience this very situation together, and to deal with the resulting rift between you in ways that would bring each of you into greater understanding of certain forms of heart-based experience and soul growth.
You have also had past lives with your daughter, in which you were the one to release or never fully connect with her, rather than the other way around.
And so this is an opportunity to learn what you could not learn in those other lives. It is not a cold form of universal karma—the Universe is not an unfeeling machine that spits out calculations and life results according to what one “deserves” in a punishing sense.
It is the completion of a cycle.
There are other forms of energetic interference that your daughter is experiencing, and this accounts for much of the depression and shock that have remained in her energies. So much of what she is carrying is not yours to take from her.
She must come through her own growth processes, both for healing that which is in part inherited from the women in your family, in part a result of what she has experienced in this and other lifetimes, and in part what she came in to experience in this life . . .
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